"Then it doesn't matter what the outcome is. If the reason is worth it, then stand by it. Prove that it's worth it even if everything appears to fall apart. Make the reason the most important thing and mean it."

There are other personal beliefs that I have now that I used to dismiss because I picked up the impression that they were wrong or dangerous.

How Shifting to a Responsibility-Based Framework Helped Me Cope with Mental Health Symptoms

We all have paradigms, we don't usually notice most of them because we assume they are part of the thing we are looking at when in fact they are an extension of us.

The basis of the concept is this: blame and responsibility are not the same and in order to progress in our view of justice and fairness it is important to move away from a paradigm of blame and into one of responsibility.

Guilt and gratitude seem related. They both have to do with receiving things that are undeserved, but guilt comes from a judgment or justice- oriented view of how things "should be" and gratitude comes from a surrendering view of how things "are."

The tree is not its leaves and if the tree attempted to trade its life for one set of leaves it would be making a terrible mistake.

Every time I tried to build a structure on beliefs that were not my own the crack appeared and brought anxiety because somewhere deep within I knew my building was not solid and it would only be a matter of time until it collapsed again. I also knew even deeper within...

What is important is not the external, it is the internal. It is not the thing but the underlying reason  for pursuing the thing in the first place.